Life after the Debut: 7 Timeless Rules for Dating and Courtship
People are naturally social, and as we grow older, we eventually meet people who we’d like to date. We reach an age where we long for someone to share our life with, someone to become our source of strength during hard times. We all want to have that fairytale romance with a happy ending, but getting into a relationship is not as easy as choosing the dress for your prom or caterer for your debut.
And with that, here are seven timeless rules for dating and courtship to help you with your current or future relationship:
Play hard to get
If you’re interested, don’t be an easy woman. Allow him to court you and make an effort to win you over. You don’t play hard to get just to tease your suitor; it also allows you to know him better in more ways than one. You learn about his personality and how much he likes you.
Don’t lead him on
If even after courtship you decide that you cannot be anything but friends with this man, don’t make excuses to lead him on. Save him from a bigger heartbreak by being honest with him.
Get along with his family and friends
If you love someone, you need to learn to get along with his family and friends. These people are a special part of his life, and without them, he wouldn’t be the person you grew to love. By doing this, you don’t only get to know your partner more – you’ll also gain new family and friends in the process. Isn’t that just wonderful?
Keep in mind what your man likes
If he’s into basketball, it wouldn’t hurt to know who LeBron is. If he’s into games, ask him to teach you how to play! Try involving yourself in his interests; this will bring you closer and give the two of you more time and opportunity to bond. Cooking his favorite food is also a good idea. As the old saying goes: “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”.
Make time for each other
There is a reason why the majority of long distance relationships don’t work. Spending quality time together is essential. This will help keep your relationship strong. There will be times where you’ll find yourself too preoccupied with school or work, but don’t let this stop you from making plans with him. It doesn’t matter if it’s just a simple dinner or movie date; having quality time with your partner is always good for both of you.
Keeping silent is not always the best option. Sometimes, you need to voice out your feelings. Men cannot read minds, so don’t assume that they always know what you want. If you’re unhappy with something, take the initiative to tell them.
Honesty is the best policy
You learned this during your preschool days: Once you tell one lie, you’ll end up telling another one and another one until you get caught. Relationships are built on trust. If one of you feel that you can’t trust the other, your relationship will only go downhill.
Dating might not always be pleasant, but don’t worry, no relationship is perfect. A relationship won’t work with only one person, you need to learn how to give and take. If worse comes to worse and you find yourself giving up, try to remember why you starting started dating him in the first place.